engaging with the blogging community: tackling my complex with blogger engagement

Baker boy hat and pinafore outfit - blogger engagement Yasmin Stefanie

baker boy – asos // pinafore – topshop // roll neck – old zara [similar herehere + here]

The first rule of blogging is getting involved with the community, right? Pretty much?

Engaging with others posts on Instagram, their blog and their other social media accounts (genuinely) is one of the key ways to up your own engagement and get more involved in the blogging community. As are engaging in Twitter chats.

But. Ya girl has a bit of a complex with this, and it stops me from engaging in the blogging community. (Take a shot every time I say engagement / engaging – it’s just a bit excessive *eyeroll emoji*).

Something about commenting on a random blogger’s photo or post or replying to their tweet (especially a bigger blogger) that just puts me off, is looking like some weirdo stalker girl who thinks she’s pals with these people when she’s not. It cringes me out to think about commenting on a blogger-who-I-don’t-speak-to’s photo like ‘love it babe!’ because lol. Dya know what I mean? The thought of replying to a blogger as if I knew them makes me squirm for some odd reason, even though I think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. The few times I do it, no matter who it’s to, I sit there thinking ‘oh my god they’re gonna think I’m so weird tryna talk to them like I know them or tryna worm my way in to make friends’.

Getting involved with blogger chats has also become something I’m deterred from doing too. When I first started this blog a couple Summers ago and was posting three times a week I would join in with chats on Twitter every single week, and managed to find a ton of new bloggers to follow and chat to. The problem is, ever since I stopped posting frequently, and am now trying to take blogging seriously again, I feel too ashamed to join in. Like, this girl isn’t serious so why is she trying. And now that I’m actually trying with this blog again, I still feel as though it’s going to come off like ‘too little, too late’.

However, I know perfectly well that people don’t think that at all. Nobody would exclude someone from a chat for not being the most regular blogger, and especially not someone who really wants to have a turnaround and try hard to get their blog back on its feet. Nobody would judge someone for commenting on their photo or blog post or Youtube video, or tweeting them some support, they’d be thankful and appreciative. And if they were one of the very small percentage of people who just might, then they aren’t worth said comments and support anyway.

Patisserie table flat lay, coffee and macarons - blogger engagement Yasmin Stefanie

So I’m trying to tackle this. Twitter has probably been my best and easiest for this – if I see something I have a response to, whether its to support someone, agree with them, give an opinion, laugh along or give feedback then I’ll try to just tweet it and not think anything of it because it shouldn’t be thought anything of. It’s literally how Twitter works. Instagram is slightly harder for me, I don’t know why. I adore Instagram, algorithm issues aside I love that Instagram can be almost like an art form, personally curated to suit someone’s personal style, vision and brand. The photos, the filters, the captions are all a representation of someone’s personality – even if Instagram is just a best bits showreel, and no problem with that, whose isn’t at this point, you can get a sense of them through the aesthetic they enjoy. Instagram is probably the one thing I should be commenting on the most because of this, because I genuinely enjoy seeing people’s aesthetic and style curated into a feed and appreciate the effort that goes into that. Blog comments I’m also not the best at, I’ve been a bit too much of a passive reader which I’ll openly admit, although now I’ve realised and acknowledged this I can easily change this by dropping a comment on a post I enjoy. Youtube comments I’m not the best at just because I don’t really use it and watch way more than just the usual array of bloggers and vloggers but maybe some more likes on videos wouldn’t go amiss.

Obviously I could make a big improvement on the engagement front. How many tweets do you see going viral, usually via either bloggers or fiat 500 twitter (lol I love the concept of this but not in a belittling way and not just because I’d love to own a fiat 500) about seeing girls on social media you’d love to be friends with or know you’d get along with but not knowing how to go about it? Engaging with others in the community could lead to these sorts of friendships people tweet about. By not responding to a Tweet or complimenting a photo you could be keeping the door closed on a potential friendship with anyone else interacting with the original post, let alone the person who actually wrote the tweet, posted the photo or created the blog post.

And, of course, we can’t forget the benefits of engaging with the blogging community for yourself and your own blog. This shouldn’t be the biggest or only motive behind your engagement with others, it’s not mine at all hence why I haven’t really tried too much. Opening yourself up to new people and a new discussion and making people feel good about themselves and their work, especially when they may have been in doubt, are great reasons for engaging in the community. I know this industry and hobby isn’t one that’s an oligopoly so you might feel lost in the crowd at times, but that’s a good thing. The vast number of creatives able to express themselves on platforms that are entirely them is an incredible thing, it’s amazing that we can have this community and can do this, whether it’s your hobby or your job. Every blogger’s blog is their passion project so encouraging their creativeness and getting chatting to like-minded people will never not be a good thing. There have been far too many times that I’ve gone online to see some blogger dramz and, whilst I don’t involve myself, I can see that we all need to take advantage of moments where we can show each other some love and support.

If you’re guilty of worrying too much and being insecure about engaging with other bloggers, you’re definitely not alone, but I can’t imagine someone not appreciating it so let’s try and squash this unnecessary fear of judgement and focus on the good side.

Here’s to supporting each other and upping our engagement in this unique and special community.




  1. Danielle Merkley
    January 18, 2018 / 6:14 pm

    Engagement is the hardest part for me. Especially on Twitter and Instagram. It's hard for me to put myself out there with people I don't really know. But I'm working on it, and practice makes perfect right? Lol

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 18, 2018 / 9:09 pm

      yep you're definitely right, I feel the same! even after this post I don't know if/when I'll ever feel comfortable with it on instagram outside of my pod group

  2. Veronika
    January 18, 2018 / 10:22 pm

    Great post! �� I'm guilty of this, too!! You're right, I sometimes feel very weird replying to people I have never talked to before but once I convince myself to give it a try, it always results in meeting the loveliest people who don't judge me at all and don't in the slightest seem to think I'm some weird stalker girl or whatever. Especially the community on Twitter has been so wonderful and supportive! ☺️

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 19, 2018 / 11:03 pm

      definitely agree with you, it seems so hard to do but everyone is so amazing in response when you finally do it!

  3. Bobbie
    January 19, 2018 / 12:26 am

    I definitely feel you. I've always blogged since I was young, am only starting to take it seriously now, and it's completely out of my comfort zone to comment/Tweet people I don't know, especially since they always seem to already have an established group of friends.I've found that the only way to get comfortable with it is to just do it as much as possible. The momentum from starting has carried me.

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 19, 2018 / 11:04 pm

      yeah I'm trying to just do it quickly so I don't have time to think about and it's helping so much! it's definitely giving me that starting point now

  4. Luke Heywood
    January 19, 2018 / 8:34 am

    I know exactly how you feel. Only being a small blogger I felt like people who have a bigger engagement rating would just disregard my comment because I'm not "someone" But this hasn't been the case at all, most bloggers love that someone they've not spoken too before has commented. I always say that I've just come across their blog and I look forward to reading more.So, keep going it'll just feel natural once you get going!hhtp://www.lukeheywoodstyle.co.uk

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 19, 2018 / 11:06 pm

      yes definitely, you forget that they're going to feel the same way you do every time you receive a comment but it's definitely not an audience size specific feeling so everyone is nothing but lovely and grateful in response every time!(:

  5. Girl In Gamba
    January 20, 2018 / 12:56 am

    I can relate on a level! I definitely feel self-conscious, like maybe I'm being too nice. However, at the end of the day I try to remember that as long as I'm being true to myself, I shouldn't worry too much about how people may perceive me.GG | http://www.girlingamba.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 21, 2018 / 9:21 pm

      couldn't agree more!

  6. Rosa Fairfield
    January 20, 2018 / 4:53 pm

    I had really big problems with it when I first started out but after a while it seemed normal to me and I really enjoyed interacting with new people. It also made me more confident in real life too.http://ohduckydarling.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 21, 2018 / 9:22 pm

      I've found the same the more I've started doing it! like taking outfit photos in public suddenly bothers me much less so I'm wondering if it's thanks to me also trying to not let engaging bother me anymore!

  7. steph
    January 20, 2018 / 10:41 pm

    I think this post is amazing especially because of these comments where people are saying they relate to you. We all have this fear that if we reach out to someone we don't really know, they are going to think we are so weird but that's part of how social media works. Keep up the good work! xx http://stephandthecity.org

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 21, 2018 / 9:23 pm

      thankyou! I've been so surprised at the comments on here, twitter and insta etc that so many people feel the same way and it's rly reassuring X

  8. Hannah
    January 20, 2018 / 11:00 pm

    Honestly, this post is like you've bundled up all my thoughts and just popped them nearly on your blog. I completely agree with everything you said. I'm fairly new to this blogging shindig, and so far i've found everyone to be very welcoming. That said, i'm still far too shy to jump on any of these 'follow trains' you see on Twitter as I consider myself far too amateur to join in. Glad to know it's not just me! Keep up the good work :)www.sarcyinthecity.wordpress.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 21, 2018 / 9:25 pm

      definitely try join in some twitter chats, when I first started blogging it was such a wonderful way to get chatting to some bloggers because I didn't really know where to start with getting myself out there and noticed in the community. and thankyou! X

  9. Beth Alice Peggie
    January 20, 2018 / 11:01 pm

    Ah this is really interesting! I'm glad you shared your thoughts, you've got a wonderful blog and I'm sure any blogger, big or small, would be happy to hear from you!

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 21, 2018 / 9:26 pm

      awwwhh thankyou so so much! X

  10. Kate H
    January 22, 2018 / 10:03 am

    I can really relate to this. I make myself join in with blogger chats and comment trains etc (on twitter and facebook). They are a really great way to make new blogger friends/acquaintances.

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 22, 2018 / 1:25 pm

      yes I love using twitter chats for that! it was such a help when I first started my blog so I'm definitely trying to involve myself in them again

  11. Lisa Santos
    January 23, 2018 / 10:40 pm

    I really don't mind commenting on other peoples photos or twitter. Either they are small or bigger bloggers. I am doing it with a purpose. First, I want to engage with real bloggers to have real followers interested in my content. And then i am also giving an honest opinion and complimenting their work. When people to that to me, comment my photos, I always feel so happy and fell like people are noticing my work and taking time to write something nice. So I like to think that my comments make them feel as happy as I feel when I read mine. http://www.thelisasworld.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 25, 2018 / 2:49 pm

      yes definitely, when I take a step back I realise just how much I appreciate every single little comment so everyone else would feel the exact same(: X

  12. 5ft Life
    January 24, 2018 / 8:54 am

    Great post! Love the accompanying photos as well 🙂 Ive never been shy to post a comment! So to be honest, I cant say I understand where you are coming from. But as someone who has blogged on and off for a few years (like yourself) all I can say is, I'm sure people dont think youre weird! They are probably glad someones liked their content enough to take time to say something! So comment away I say! I LOVE a comment, it makes it more real and that someone is actually seeing what im putting out there lolHayley xxwww.5ftlife.co.uk

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 25, 2018 / 2:50 pm

      awwwhh thankyou! haha yes I always need to remember that other bloggers will feel just as appreciative as I do when I receive comments and looking at it that way has definitely helped me with engaging X

  13. Jessica Taylor
    January 28, 2018 / 9:54 am

    Excellent post, lovely! This is exactly what I've been going through so I've been trying to be a bit more active online in terms of commenting more and actually chatting to fellow bloggers. Plus, as long as it's genuine interaction I think it's alllll good.www.The-REDO.co.uk

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      January 29, 2018 / 11:04 am

      thankyou babe! yes genuine interaction is everythaannggg, once you take a step back and remember that everyone will appreciate a comment the same way you do for your own posts it makes it so much easier.

  14. La dame chat
    February 5, 2018 / 1:28 pm

    Engagement is super important honestly I never been intimidated commenting on other bloggers including the bigger one I think commenting on their post whether they're big or small bloggers it keeps them motivated and I just love writing nice comments on their. I usually try to be active on the blog chat on twitter even tho I struggle due to the time zone but hopefully I will start catching up more.Michelle| http://www.brokebutflawless.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      February 9, 2018 / 4:53 pm

      100% agree with you – when writing this post it made me take a step back and realise that everyone will appreciate it and get motivated by it the exact same way I do!

  15. Amita Kundlani
    February 8, 2018 / 10:08 am

    I know exactly how you feel! I was so intimated in the beginning to interact with other bloggers and happy to stay in my own bubble. But everyone's actually very lovely and it's incredible to receive support from others and give some back. Great post lovely xxamerzwithlove.com

    • Yasmin Stefanie
      February 9, 2018 / 4:53 pm

      thankyou so much! it's so great when you get over the intimidation isn't it X

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